Sure, we all go through problems in life, and experience some misery and tragedy. In fact “misery art” can be created during that time……in fact creating is one healing way to get past your issues and moving forward. But allowing negativity and drama to remain in your life seldom works when it comes down to getting down to business. Like meeting with clients, bidding shoots, shooting on set around people, and meeting deadlines, etc. It can also get in the way of your creative process because you are allowing your vision to be clouded, and in fact you are then taking your eye off the prize. It will affect how you do things and how others deal with you. Let me share one really awesome example, about one person’s negativity and how the rest of the group dealt with it.
Last time I was in Santa Fe for a really amazing photography workshop with a very famous and decorated photographer as instructor, there were 12 of us in the class. The first half of the day was educational and critique time….the afternoons were for shooting, in our respective teams of 3. Evenings were for presentations, editing, and retouching, and conferring with others in the class, as a certain amount of our best images were to be presented in class that next morning, no questions asked. It’s very grueling but also very rewarding, and the demand was certainly worth the education we all got from the course. Most of us in the class were professional photographers, and there were a few advanced hobbyist photographers as well…..but everyone there was very serious about developing their photography craft! We all paid a lot of money for it and came a long way for it, (Nashville to Santa Fe was a 1300 mile flight and one hour drive from Albuquerque) so might as well be passionate about it, right? The main course requirements were good working camera equipment, knowledge and experience level to be accepted in that course, as well as a good working laptop computer with a current version of Photoshop, to prepare images for presentation. This was well articulated.
A couple days into the class, I noticed one lady in the class, not in my group, who seemed distracted and overwhelmed but didn’t really open up to anyone. Up until that point we all worked very well together! For some reason she didn’t have images ready for presentation, and informed the instructor in a frantic manner that she was having laptop problems, and needed to sit out that day’s trip to the location shoot to sort things out, meaning personal problems. The instructor and the rest of the class was baffled. The instructor asked her why she didn’t come to anyone there for help before, as there were unlimited resources at that school! He also asked her why she would pay that much for that class if she didn’t wish to participate and complete assignments she was supposed to. She was getting defensive and he just said, that’s fine if you don’t want to join us today, but you are also letting your group down by not being there and participating…..and if you were shooting for a magazine or other advertisement, and had a deadline you didn’t meet, you’d not get work from them or that ad agency again! She fretted and walked out and stayed in solitude that day…..not sure what she accomplished except stewing…..she attended a few courses back to back which is not recommended and alluded to the fact when I went to her dorm room later that night that she had personal trouble etc. I just tried to encourage her to pull her head out the mud and focus on why she is here, and join us for dinner. Nope. Well, I made up my mind that I tried, and I was going to forget about it. Once she told me the instructor was insensitive, I quickly told her, no he is not…..you didn’t do your job and you wallowed in self pity rather than reaching out to the many who would have, and would still be glad to help you….I politely left her company and went to the group to prepare my images.
One interesting thing is that not one person in the group really seemed affected by her behavior, and were done feeling sorry for her because all the rest of us had our eye on the prize. She remained pretty uncooperative for the rest of the course but we all blocked it out pretty well by then. Even the people in her group said that if she’s going to breed negative energy in their group, they were fine with doing the same. I really hope she ended up being ok, but my point is this…..that course was the coming together of true professionals, and no one was going to hinder their experience…..if she sought help, she’d have had an abundance of it. Since she was insolent, people avoided her. This applies to a lot in life……but I know that in terms of creating and doing business, mindset can make or break you.
